Tuesday, September 16, 2014

America The Brutal-ful and the Financed

Hello World....

I had a chance to have a convo with a young man from another country about his move to the United States.  The company I work for has international offices and we have international interns and employees so my assumption is a Visa and here to go to school and/or work,  I was not ready for what I was about to hear.

So, apparently the process is as follows:


  1. Person approaches the embassy to advise of wanting to come to the US.
  2. A nonrefundable $$$$$$ amount is paid.
  3. The embassy looks at the type of work that the person will be doing in the US.
  4. If there is a need for that type of work, in their opinion, the Visa is approved or denied.
  5. If the Visa is denied, the person does NOT get the money back.  So now they are still stuck in their country and out of $1000s of dollars.


We keep the money.  When I say "we" I mean my government not his.  Where is the dough flowing?  We have ALL types of issues going on in these United States.  There are all types of  revenue streams that flow elsewhere.  There is a group of people that have spent all of their lives holding on to their privileges.  I guess it makes sense to try to keep a group of people beneath you so you can feel powerful.  As many opportunities that we have, I just couldn't believe the process I mentioned above is in place anywhere or would ever be dreamed up.

I'm sure you're saying "you didn't say what country"....does it really matter?  This is crazy!  This is really crazy!

I was born and raised here and even though my brown skin is still sometimes mocked (even in 2014) I like this country, I've even served my country but dammit sometimes shit is just backwards!  Making people do what they have to do to scrape up and save money to only possibly lose it.  Totally backwards!


I normally give a word of encouragement during this part of the blog but I'm having a hard time thinking of anything to say.  I send positive vibes to those that are making a strong attempt to get to the states.  I pray that EVERYthing goes well and you are successful in all that you are striving to do.  Continue with your passion and birth your baby.  Don't let America, America suck it out of you.  Life can be brutal if you don't keep pushing forward.  In the words of a hip hop producer, it's all about the benjamins aka the cheddar aka the money.  Another cliche is money talks, bullshit walks.  Most of the business deals are made behind closed doors, in clubs, over drinks with money involved.  You scratch my back I'll scratch yours is another mindset used in business.  Just be careful and keep swimming.

Peace and Blessings...

Pregnant with a Purpose....

Hello World...

The Word says "Write the Vision and make it plain" which goes along with the practical application of a Vision Wall.  If  you've never heard of a vision wall it's literally the practice of  making a poster board or use a wall to bring your visions/goals to life.  Yes, you use magazines and other print media and have a literal cut and paste happy time.  You will definitely find out more about yourself, some amazing things.  When you see it, it makes sense.  Patrick Love wrote a song that reiterates making the vision plain and reassures one that if the Lord said it, it is a done deal! (click here for a gospel eargasm)

It's been a minute since I've shared my words/thoughts. I promise I'm actively working on getting better about that.

I've been straddling the mediocre fence for several years.  I have a gift and I've had the pleasure of being connected with a host of folks that can REALLY make it happen in my life.  But fear has kept me from taking it all the way to the finish line.  It's a scary thing to know that you have a purpose and to know that you're too scared to make it happen.  My spirit-man reminds me daily that I have a job to do before I leave this earth and before I leave this earth it will get done.....by me.

So last night, my dreams had me roaming around the town not necessarily doing anything in particular and I was very very pregnant.  Felt like about 8 to 9 months along, I wasn't going into labor or anything but I was just really ready to give birth.  When I woke up I had to apologize to my heavenly Father for wasting what he gave me.  Because my dream emulated my life in Atlanta.  Roaming around doing this/that wasting energy and time and holding a "baby".  My musical gifts are there, I just didn't move with the mighty motivation that I should have.  The purpose is about to be birthed, vision board being created and I'm ready to stop being mediocre.  I knew I was getting restless because I've been looking at other job opportunities, don't get me wrong the company I've worked with is awesome but I've gotten into a comfortable rut which is NOT good. So at this point when I do make a move it will not be to another distraction from my purpose.  So guess what readers... I'M PREGNANT....with a purpose and it's about to be born.

I want to encourage you! If there is anything you are holding back on due to fear, let the fear go for faith.  Switch it up!  Instead of speaking "less than" into your life, speak "more than".  So be encouraged...live your life the way you were born to live it!  Don't look for others to encourage you, look in the mirror and encourage yourself.
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Peace & Blessings.....

Nissa K

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Saturday, July 12, 2014

My Kings What Happened to You?

Hello World....

It's been 3 months since my last installment.  Whew! I need to really get my time better organized.  I'm doing stuff I love to do but I have to figure out how to do it ALL properly. :-)



As you know, I speak my mind on different topics and today's entry is in reference to my view of our Kings, our men, our providers.  I meant to start this a few weeks earlier after I had an inbox Facebox altercation but have been delayed due to other things in life.  I'm sure you're curious about the above-mentioned altercation and I will tell you in just a moment.

What I have noticed is that our men have moved from the position of provider to being provided for.  It seems like they are more comfortable with laying up while the woman takes care of them.  I'm not saying this scenario is brand new but it seems that our younger generation of men are okay with it.  I'd really love to know why..my first answer is more and more single mom homes with NO male support.


The moms, in this scenario, dote on their sons to the point of smothering causing them to be a "mama's boy" with no provision training.  Yes I said provision training.  They are raised to look for a woman to continue to take care of them.  It's rather sad to see this trend especially after being raised by the male generation that took pride in making sure the family was taken care of.  Of course, this does not describe ALL men but enough of them to make it very, very noticeable.

The facebook interaction that lead me to this thought pattern is as follows:

I don't proclaim and profess my dating life all over social media and I try to keep an even keeled momentum when conversing with members of the opposite sex on social media.  Dealing with marketing/PR events within the arts (music, dance, etc) I deal/connect with men a lot of the time.  I'm sure a lot of women have experienced the inbox message from a new male friend request scenario where you have to let him know you're not interested and not single.  One day I had an incredible experience with a guy that had already approached me with the "hey are you single?" vibe more than once, which I answered "no" each time, that really took it over the top.  It was his attitude that made me start thinking about our younger generation of african american men and how they view their position in society.  The scenario (abridged version) went as follows:

Strange FB Guy:  Hi. You don't know me but I met a woman here in Atlanta who I'd known for a few months and I thought I wanted to marry her.  She talked me into moving back with her to Texas where I would be living with her, her mother and her teenage son.  We had plans to open up a food truck business.  Her mother doesn't like me and they constantly fight about so I had to leave the house and now I'm homeless with no ID because I left my drivers license in GA.  Again, I don't know you but I wanted to know if you could send me something to help out, I wouldn't think of asking but the whole ticket is $100+.

Me: No.

Strange FB Guy: See that's what's wrong with society now, people don't want to help each other.  This is why we'll never come up as a people.

Me: *speechless*

And then as I was in the process of disconnecting from his page, I noticed he'd proceeded to adding cryptic status updates about  people not helping out those that could be an important influence on society.  Again, all I could do was look and laugh.

It seems that a lot of our men seem to be more inclined to being provided for versus being providers.  I see a man as two things, 1. protector 2. provider.  They are our kings, our heads of the households (in my eyes).  But I'm noticing more of a trend of men who seem to be okay with asking a woman for a hand out.  I was raised around and by the male generation that figured out how to provide for his family and wouldn't dare think about asking for a hand out.  This inbox guy literally showed me with his story that he had no plan for provision, had no problem asking a strange woman for money and then had the gall to hit me with a "our people will never come up" line when I didn't agree.

And to that I ask, My Kings...What Happened to You?  What happened to the men that know what it means to make something out of nothing? What happened to the providers? Why are they becoming a minority?

Another scenario that saddens me is that more and more of our Kings are subconsciously leading the Queens to be less than ladies.  They don't seem to attempt to court or date, immediately plans for jumping in the sack are in the air.  Molding a relationship is no longer a priority.  I saw a quote floating around the internet that basically said "People meet, jump into bed and create situations." and it seems to be accurate.  Again, this does not pertain to EVERYone, it's not a general statement but the men that prefer to get to know a lady definitely seem to be in the minority these days.  Instead of making us proud to be a lady, we get called "bitches", "whores", "thots" and the big new craze seems to be becoming a single mother.  At one time in society, an unwed mother was not looked upon as a good thing.  Men looked down on men who left a pregnant woman alone to raise his child.  These days, it seems our men eagerly look forward to planting a seed and leaving and the women have slowly morphed into the mindset of ONLY wanting to be a single mother instead of a wife.  And then they seem to be content with themselves with being able to say how strong or independent they are and how much a man isn't needed.  We are created by two parents for a reason, as individuals we are formed by the lessons of the father AND the mother.  This is slowly turning into a very vicious cycle and we have got to do something to reverse it.  My kings we are counting on you to lead the way.



As you know I ALWAYS end my blog on a positive note.  So here goes..... for every man that walks over me to get to a seat on the bus or train there is a man that gives up his seat and/or allows the women step on the bus or train ahead of him.  I see you my kings, I see young men showing that they are being trained by kings. For every mother that talks down about men in front of their children and/or keeps the father from seeing his kids for no other reason than just being evil, there is a mother that does her darndest to make sure the child is NEVER separated from his/her father.  I see you my queens, yes ma'am, I see you and thank you.

It's not totally hopeless but it's looking kind of bleak.  My kings, we need you.  You are definitely our leaders...believe it or not women follow your lead.  Quiet as it's kept, the entire world follows your lead.  You have no idea how much power you truly have, if you were to use it for good the world would be so much better.  Don't let the negative media rule the way our daughters and sons live, let them see what it means to be an upright man. Let our daughters see what good man looks like so they'll know when it's wrong.

Puttin my own spin on a long term cliche, it takes a village to raise a generation.  It takes a village of people that are willing to put up with naysayers, to put up with the ones that don't want to do better and for some off reason, want the rest of us to sit back and let it all go to hell in a hand basket.  It takes a village of Kings and Queens to keep pushing us to the top of our game!  My Kings we are watching and take our cues from you, make us proud!

Peace and Blessings....

Photo Credit:
"146 months old" - author unknown
"Lead by Example" - www.blackyouthproject.com
"The Crown" - www.vampirediaries.wikia.com

Sunday, March 9, 2014

Lovers Holiday.....everyday?

Hello World...

This will be a short one...I have to speak on the reminder of my blessings that I received last month.

Valentines Day weekend was an icy week/weekend and our office moved that weekend.  The streets were crazy icy and I needed to go from SW Atlanta to NE Atlanta/Sandy Springs.  Thanks to an awesome business connection with a nearby hotel, I was able to lay my head down on the NE side without worrying about getting back to the SW side.  During my stay I was able to catch up on some shows, including my fave TNT, BRAVO and HBO channels.  One movie on HBO FAM snuck up on me, I don't know the title of it but it was a story of a country girl with a beautiful voice who made it big and then learned the real lesson of love.  The moral of the story is to use your gift from your heart and you get the full potential.

Another big thank you to the staff and management at Hyatt Place Perimeter.  Check out the Eat and Drink With Me review here.

Peace and Blessings.....

Saturday, February 22, 2014

P.U.S.H. - it works...

Hello World...

I'm loving life right now.  Things are happening an it's a beautiful thing!

Our office just recently moved, I was one of the coordinators on the team and *whew* i'm glad it's over.  Well the move part is over.  Now we get to combine 2 1/2 offices, different personalities and make it all work.  It's working right now, I can honestly say that.  I've just been moving a lot since Feb 13th and I now what to sit down for a minute.  Not for too long though.  I like my job but I've hid behind it for much too long. My youth is fading...I need to move.  I need to P.U.S.H. - pray until something happens - and at the same time

On the music scene I am singing background vocals for one of Atlanta's up and coming vocalists (by way of New Orleans), Meryl Lain in an Atlanta music event presented by International Choreographer Ursula Kendall of Ursula Inc, the flyer is posted below.

On the modeling scene, it is time for the annual ABS Fine Art and Apparel show.  That flyer is posted below too.

On the food scene, Eat and Drink With Me is doing it's own thing.  I'm currently connected with Nailah Travels for the Soul Beach Music fest in Aruba.  This is happening in May.  I have posted that flyer below.

Looking at all of this stuff makes me wanna go back to hiding under a rock while secretly wishing I was brave enough to use my gifts.  UUUh not gonna happen. If I don't do it this time, I'm going to die trying.  And my friends and associates will be able to say at my memorial, because i'm getting cremated, that she died sharing her gifts.  Last Sunday, Bishop called for single women who'd been divorced that had businesses to come forth to be prayed for.  Now, I hadn't been to church in a couple of weeks so physically being there was a blessing for me.  So when he had this odd request I immediately ran downstairs to get my blessing.  I've been talking to God for awhile about me doing better and humbly apologizing for trying to bury my gifts.  This was overwhelming because I was worried that my Father hadn't been hearing me and was worried that my lifestyle of late had pushed me away from grace. But "i love the Lord, He heard my cry and pitied every groan".  I now know what my elders were singing about.  I've done my dirt, I'm not perfect by ANY shape, form or fashion but I know and love the Lord and He knows it.

Oh yes....me and Mr. Man are doing juuust fine.... *wink*

I've been saying this for awhile but get ready for Nissa K! She's coming!  :-)


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Sunday, February 9, 2014

Look around and check out life..

Hello World...

It's been a minute..I haven't neglected ya, there have been a few moments that I've needed to stop and make a post but life has been moving at a fast pace these days with some interesting results.

I am more active in my meetup groups (Foodies Rock, Travel Abroad, Atlanta Food Bloggers Alliance) and yesterday I was at a meet up with Foodies Rock at Seabass Kitchen in Sandy Springs, GA.  Very interesting group of people.  It was a huge group - 30 people and we all showed I think we made the staff a little nervous.  I sat in between some of the seasoned members which held for interesting conversation.

I sat and talked to a psychologist who I probably needed to make an appointment with, an immigration lawyer who is hard of hearing and kept calling me "Anita", a recent divorcee whose hubby took her for 6 figures and screwed up her credit and she's the care giver for her parents who've been married 68 years, a married couple from new york and new england area, a recovering alcoholic who I didn't know was recovering before I ordered my Stella Artois (oops), a lady that kept me laughing who happens to be a commitment-phobe and who is now living with her guy of 6 months (good luck), an engineering student who dates around (hilarious sense of humor), another funny lady who would make any event/trip a hoot and our group moderator is British.  Bottom line: I had an interesting night coupled with good food!

Make sure to visit my site for the food review. www.annissakaye.wix.com/eatandrinkwithme

We are heading to New Orleans in September, I can't wait!!

We sit around and look at our problems and think we are doomed for life.  I know I did.  But when you take a look around and check out life, one tends to realize that their problems aren't as serious as it really seems.

I am on a whole new level of an interesting life.  It's a giant shift.  And I'm about to take a HUGE step in the right direction to do some awesome stuff.  I've run from it long enough.  I can't wait!

Word of the day....
Look around and check out life...you'll find some happiness...

Peace and Blessings!

Wednesday, January 1, 2014

Happy New Year!!!

Hello World...

Happy New Year!!!

The sermon at our celebration service was "How can I get you to stretch?", Bishop preached out of Isaiah 55:15-20.    Bottom line, instead of living life in the mediocre...stretch out your faith and live life in the supernatural overflow.  Let that be your normal way of living.  I had been praying about just this! Nothing like getting confirmation!!

I ran across a sign on FB that says something about having 365 pages to write a new story. I brought it in celebrating life and then my day one started with me cooking a meal and taking it to "Mr. Man" at work and sat down and chit chatted with him at his store. :-) Yep, my first time cooking for Mr. Man...going into 8 months...he ate it all...pages 3-365 will be off tha chain!  Page 2: I launched my website last night, annissakaye.wix.com/eatandrinkwithme - honest food reviews only. I'll tell ya if I like it or not.  Service AND food. Check out the blog too - eatandrinkwithme.blogspot.com.

I vow to stretch...starting with tithing with no thought....and trusting God to do the rest. that's it.  Bishop mentioned how simple it was to receive blessings when we were either broke with no job or getting paid very little. Our faith was SOOOO BIG!  Then when we get blessed, we forget and start doing stuff our way and then wonder why things go wrong.

I vow to physically stretch too.  I've actually stopped and I can FEEL the difference!  My poor muscles are all bunched up!  I will definitely do better!

No longer living in the mediocre - Not anymore...not over here!

Moral of this story:  Happy New Year - S-T-R-E-T-C-H out your faith....don't question the Universer/God/Allah...just do it!!

Peace and Blessings...